Your Love Is Like A Giant Pigeon

Your Love Is Like A Giant Pigeon

Whoop! It’s Friday in this cold part of South Africa and what better way to spend it than to write posts about absolutely anything because, yay! So today I thought I’d round up a few of my favourite Phoebe Buffay (I had to Google the spelling he-he) quotes and kinda just throw them out there.

So here goes, a few things I’ve learnt from Phoebe Buffay.

phoebe pigeon

Firstly, Phoebe has taught me that love isn’t always as peachy and candle lit themed as one is made to believe it is. More often than not, love is messy and it hurts and it gets thrown in your face. Sometimes it’s not reciprocated and that can break you, or you can have it strengthen you and make you more ready for the next time. Also, there is absolutely nothing wrong with writing music and your lyrics don’t rhyme… At all. That’s okay.

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Secondly, she taught me that It’s so easy to become comfortable with the way that you’re used to living your life and you get to a point where you’re too scared to venture beyond the fences you’ve built up around yourself. (Taking into consideration the fact that she lived out of a box for most of her childhood.) Not knowing that in so doing, all you’re accomplishing is limiting yourself to new relationships, new experiences and discovering new things about yourself that are actually quote delightful. So have that extra glass of wine if you so please, do it for the kids ๐Ÿ˜‰

phoebe no

We don’t always have to do the things that people want us to do, when we don’t want to do it. People are so used to doing what everyone else is doing, mostly due to #fomo and also, we just want to be a part of everything. You know, there might be a really cool photo opportunity to post onto Instagram. You never know! So it’s okay to say no once in a while, it’s okay to decline an invitation if you’d much rather cuddle up with your favourite book, or just to spend time with very awesome self.

phoebe giggle

It’s okay to get shy and giggle about silly things once in a while. This is a bit of an every day occurrence for me, either way, it’s great! We can take things so seriously sometimes that we genuinely suck the fun out of what might actually be a really sweet moment. That guys you think is totes gorge smiled at you and said he likes your new lipstick? Blush and walk away all red and flustered and then tell your favorite girlfriend all all secretively! Why not? It’s cute! And before you know it you’ll have to be planning retirement plans and working out your next mortgage. So yay to cute giggles!

phoebe son

Sometimes life kicks you in the lady bits. And sometimes you want to vent about said kicking. At this moment, it’s okay to lose your lady-like grandeur and drop an F-Bomb… or four ๐Ÿ˜€ It’s not the end of the world and I assure you, from the mouth of a near-angel, it really does make you feel a whole lot better. Sometimes we’re so frigid,ย andย get to the point where you’re just like, okay, but why? The world is not going to change the direction of rotation, trust me.

phoebe bybe

Lastly, and what a fitting ending ha-ha. It’s okay say goodbye to something that isn’t good for you. Whether it’s a pair of shoes that is just past it’s good days, a person who continuously hurts you, a friendship that you know is toxic, or the adorable shirt you loved to bits but won’t let go of because of all the memories attached (even though you haven’t worn it in the last two seasons). Take out the things that don’t need to be there and make space in your life for what is better and what will make you happier… probably.

phoebe dance

Boo! That’s not Phoebeย giving you a fright. That’s her dancing! So, dance. Even though social convention dictates dancing involves your butt doing weird thingsย and by those standards you can’t dance- just go ahead and freaking dance anyway. You’ll probably scare some people in the process, but it’s your life so go wild flower child!

Love and cute little midi rings,

Rochelle xx

4 Powerful Ways To Effectively Deal With Judgement –

4 Powerful Ways To Effectively Deal With Judgement –

By now most of you know how fond I am of Dale and his wife and the message of grace and encouragement they send out to the world. That and the fact that I try my utmost not to be a ‘judger of people’.

So when the link to this article came into my inbox I was more than happy to read and share it in my personal space!

It’s become very easy for people to judge anything that moves these days because the world thinks that it owes everyone it’s opinion (which it doesn’t). Don’t get me wrong, I’m in the sinking boat on this one, if I see someone walk by and is wearing something skimpy, I will cast a shadey look and make an assumption of what kind of person I think them to be. Sometimes it’s a lot more subtle than that. Sometimes it’s as simple as agreeing to when someone else says something mean and critical (without being helpful) about someone else. Because it’s easier to look on and judge another person than it is to stop and understand a bit more about them first.

I don’t know, maybe I’m too harsh on society and the way we are about things and people who aren’t quite like us. So because youย wouldn’t wear that, neither should she? Or because your opinion differs to their’s so they certainly must be wrong; or you wouldn’t raise your child with those methods so… My all time favourite is “I just don’t understand why she would do that/dress that way/ believe that” Can we see a pattern forming? Which brings me to my last and final quote, it’s something I love because I used to keep it in the front of my mind all the time, until I became lazy..

“We donโ€™t see things as they are. We see things as we are.”

The truth is, it takes a lot more time to get down into someone’s shoes and try toย understand howย and why they are the way they are. Which is why we take the easy route and judge like we’re Joan Rivers on Fashion Police. But we’re not. No one is. No one has the right to stand up on a pedestal and look down on people for whatever reason, because we are flawed and full of unpleasantness. Ah. I could go into depth on this topic, but I shan’t because I have a ton of work to do ๐Ÿ™‚ So head on down to the link below and see for yourself ๐Ÿ™‚

4 Powerful Ways To Effectively Deal With Judgement –

You Don’t Have to Be Better Than Everybody Else

You Don’t Have to Be Better Than Everybody Else

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Two posts in two days! Look at me, being all blogger’y and what have you ๐Ÿ™‚ I saw this a few minutes ago and I found it hilarious how just this morning, on the way back from gym Alex and I were arguing over fitness and something or other… He was saying that the only way to better oneself in their fitness is to be better than the person of similar fitness. He said something along the lines of beating them, means you’ve improved yourself. Which, I don’t agree with, and this is why…

I don’t think that it’s a healthy stance to take to always want to be the best in the room, at everything. And this was what I told Alex, but he was all like ‘no, but this is fitness and I know more than you blah blah blah..” ‘Cos seriously, if you’re the smartest/fittest, surely you’re not in the right room? The truth is that this is a type of philosophy that people apply to everything in their lives and it’s totes not cool. Also, what happens when you are in fact the fittest person in the room, glass ceiling? Go to another room? I just don’t think that we were made to be competing with each other in that we start comparing ourselves to one another.

I get it, I too would love to have the physics defying ab definition of said model on a Pinterest Health & Fitness board, but if I head to the gym at 06h00 every morning longing to sculpt my body to the dimensions of someone else’s I don’t think I’m doing anyone any favors. Please correct me if I’m wrong, but I just don’t think that’s what it’s all about.

Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s great to look up to and be inspired by said super ripped, fit females, I just don’t think our end goal should be to want to be molded like them. There are many people I look up to, and would love to be like, but I will never be them. I was made to be me, and be the best me I can be. I’m starting to sound like a pre-school teacher aren’t I ๐Ÿ˜€ But it’s true. The only way I will succeed at this fitness/study/successful career business, is by doing MY best every single chance I get. It’s really simple actually ๐Ÿ˜‰

If only Alex read my blog, he would understand this all so much better ๐Ÿ˜€

Hey, I might change my opinion on this within a few years. Who knows, maybe there’s a very competitive little gene inside someone waiting to reveal it’self. Even then, I do hope that my best measure of comparison is my-yesterday-self ๐Ÿ™‚

Love and sunshine filled smiles,

Rochelle ๐Ÿ™‚ xx

It Gets Easier Because You Get Better

It Gets Easier Because You Get Better

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It’s so long since my last post, that I actually had no idea what my last post was about and I had almost no idea how to create a new one… Times are weird ๐Ÿ˜€

But! It feels good to be back ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s quite weird, because I’ve been on holiday (Well, semester break, still worked though #blegh) and I still didn’t post… I felt sure it was because my brain was so tired I wouldn’t know what on earth to write about. I did so much reading though! Yay! So I’m doing it now (writing this post, that is), a week and a bit into my second semester and I’m writing this when I should be going through the first chapter of my Psychology in The Work Context textbook.

Anyway! I posted this picture, not only because the cartoon girl could very well be a cartoon drawing of me, (Seriously! Hello hot girl, effortlessly holding a plank position while looking into the camera fearlessly ๐Ÿ˜‰ )If that’s any indication, it’s defo’s not me ๐Ÿ˜€ But mostly because it’s something that resonates with most peopleย and almost every facet of life.

This ties in perfectly with me at the moment because I’ve just started my 5th week of Spinning Classes. Yes, you read correctly. I’m Spinning! And it’s great ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s grueling and while I’m in that class I squeal and moan and want to give up and die, but I don’t. I don’t because the feeling I get once that instructor says that we’ve made to the top of the theoretical hill and we’re done, is so worth it. Also, after 5 weeks, I feel my legs getting stronger and my arms keep on producing new muscles I never knew I had! It’s wonderful!

It’s a lot like life though, we go through things that break our hearts and sometimes crush our spirits, but we get THROUGH those things. We don’t chill there and wait to let it consume us. Everybody knows the clicheย ‘What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’, if you don’t, then seriously? Where have you been? I’m almost sure Kelly Clarkson made a song with it in the title/chorus. It’s the cliche of the year for me, because that’s what happens. Things get horrible and you feel as if though you’re never going to make it through and before you’ve wiped the tears from your face, you’ve overcome and you’re strong enough to face the next challenge life throws at you ๐Ÿ˜‰

What’s great about it all is that once you’ve been able to tackle something, the same thing rarely comes along again, unless you’re helping someone else and boom! Wisdom! Haha. Look at some gym enthusiast for example, or maybe not even a gym enthusiast, just a regular fit person, say a runner. If you’re able to do your first 5km run, you’re super stoked at the time you’ve got, but you’re not going to want to get that same time again. You’re going to want to better your time, right? Right. Soon you’ll start doing 10km races, then 15km, then your first half marathon and then! Heaven forbid a full marathon! Yay you! Point being, the things don’t get easier, you become stronger ๐Ÿ˜‰ Title!

This was great ๐Ÿ™‚ I feel like I’ve given myself a pep-talk ๐Ÿ˜€ Don’t allow the sucky things in life steal your joy, I know it’s tough, but you have to remind yourself CONSTANTLY that it’s all adding to your character, molding you into the person you were meant to become. If you know you’re going to forget this (I do all the time), then write these things down for yourself. Put inspirational quotes up on your mirror and repeat things to strengthen yourself, it’s good for your well-being ๐Ÿ™‚

Ah… This post needs ice-cream, a fitting ending, don;t you think ๐Ÿ™‚

Love and sprinkles ๐Ÿ™‚

Rochelle Joy xx

Cute Little Girl and a Post About Wearing Less Make Up

Cute Little Girl and a Post About Wearing Less Make Up

Ok, so it would be a complete and utter lie if I told you that I posted this because of anything other than the little girl and the dog. It’s the best post ever! It’s so funny! And the only reason I’m re-posting is because of the cute little GIF at the end. Seriously, look at that little girl! Isn’t she the cutest little creature in the whole entire world?

As funny and over dramatic as the post may be, it’s definitely something I’ve been giving some thought to lately. I’ve been trying my best not to indulge in too much make up every day. For the past few weeks I’ve only applied BB Cream, Navy Blue Eyeliner (not on the waterline, only on the top lid) and mascara. To be honest, it’s not really all that bad. The only reason I do it is so that I don’t look like a complete zombie when I leave in the morning.

That’s the point of make-up though, it’s to accentuate what you already have. It’s there for you to highlight what makes you gorgeous, it’s intent is not to make you look like someone you’re not. If your ‘off to bed face’ is vastly different from your ‘leaving out the door’ face, then well, sweetie, there’s something off over there. I have many (please understand, that by ‘many’ I actually mean 6) girlfriends and at least half of them (that’s about, 3 haha)ย wear make up, as in, the Full Monty on a daily basis. They’re all beautiful (they’re my friends, duh) so they really don’t have to. I don’t just say this because they’re my friends, but because it’s the honest truth. I’ve seen them all without any make-up and yes, although they look a tad bit sleepy (seriously though, who doesn’t?) they look just fine!

Just two days ago, I had the privilege of watching one of, said friends apply her make up. It was an incredible experience. The transformation was so subtle and yet so astounding. With every step she took, I told her she could stop right there, that was enough. Obviously, she didn’t listen ๐Ÿ˜€ and when she was done, she looked like she was ready to do a half page spreadย for Garnier. It was so minimalistic and beautiful. I felt like someone watching their big sister apply make up for the first time.

I’m not sure how I got to that point. But yes. Make up is great, in moderation ๐Ÿ™‚ And seriously, look at that cute face!

Hugs and joy all around,

Rochelle ๐Ÿ™‚ xx


20 Things That Happen When You Wear Less Makeup


I love The Person I’ve Become

I love The Person I’ve Become



Hello friends ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s been far too long. Please mind the delay, I’ve entered my exam period (about 3 weeks ago) and I have my last exam in just under 2 weeks, so yay me!

When I saw this post on this morning, I thought it was absolutely beautiful. I don’t think I’m at the point int my life where I have everything together and I’m just in the prime of my life, but I do feel that I have it about as together as I could possibly have it at this point in time ๐Ÿ™‚ (Such a long sentence jeez!)

What I will say is that at this point, is that I do love the person I’ve become. If you knew me prior to 2010, you’d know that the person I was then, is vastly different from the person writing this post now. I don’t think it was that much of a personality change, or rather, transformation as it was a style transformation. I believe that I was always wonderfully bubbly and creative, but it was hidden underneath layers made up of Superhero obsessions, over-sized clothing from the men’s section and skater shoes. It’s amazing what a boost of self confidence one gets from looking good. It’s always said that you have to feel good and it will show in your appearance and the way you conduct yourself and blah blah blah. But it was different for me. I never felt confident (still something I’m working on, daily), I felt OK with my appearance and never thought of myself as beautiful or anything close to the way I feel about myself now.

But we grow up. We learn that hiding our true potential from the world only holds us back from being the amazing people we are. It’s not easy, when you’re an introvert and you kinda want to keep people at a safe distance, it’s tricky to be well, amazing. But there comes a point where being shy isn’t as cute as we thought it was when we were in high school; when it’s the bold girl who get’s the position because she’s confident in who she is and won’t back away from a challenge. Seriously, the shy girl will not, I repeat, will not get the corner office. Nothing in life comes from shying away into corners and waiting for people to drag you out. You have to be courageous and go after what you want in life, there are no two ways about it.

I want to look back at this day and smile at how far I’ve come, the same way I look back at my former self. And with regard to the confidence, if there’s anything that Joyce Meyer has taught me (and she’s taught me plenty) it’s that you don’t have to FEEL confident to BEย confident (or something like that). And it rings true almost every single day of my life ๐Ÿ˜€ I don’t see myself as the person I am, but the person I’m working toward being. I dress myself for the job that I want, not that job I have (Thank you Mr. Donaghy). It’s these little things that we do that add up in the end, and in the end, we’re the people we want to be ๐Ÿ™‚

That was such a mouthful! I feel as if I’ve written enough to keep me going for the next little while ๐Ÿ˜‰ kidding! Kidding!

Please remember, that all these things, they’re not easy. It’s not easy to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you’re beautiful and capable of great things; that you’re destined for so much more than you could imagine; that you were created to make a difference; that you were made to love yourself and love others. It sounds great in theory, but it’s a daily fight (psssht, more like a battle). I can assure you, it gets easier and easier and then you move onto something greater ๐Ÿ™‚

The whole ‘fake it till you make it’ bit, haha it’s something I thought I’ll never have to do, but hey, it works. Before you know it. you’re genuinely being confident and walking around with the strut of a Victoria’s Secret model. If you’re not inclined to the whole strutting your stuff like a model vibe, then be who it is you want to be.

Be true to who you are ๐Ÿ™‚

Many smiles,

Rochelle xx



The Shocking Truth About Introverts – The Daily Positive

I have and probably will always post things from The Daily Positive website. It’s by far one of the most inspiring things to pop into my mail box on a daily basis.

This video however, was absolutely amazing. It intrigued me because I’m an introvert and I thought ‘Hey this must be something special about my kind of people!’ I wasn’t wrong. People often put people into boxes. You’re a big loud mouth, you’re this way and you’re passive and quiet, so you’re this way. They expect the two to be mutually exclusive. With the one being the polar opposite the the other, so the one has to be the greater, no? No.

The truth is, that ย without the other, neither one would thrive. But! Before I get ahead of myself, watch this video and find out for yourself ๐Ÿ™‚

The Shocking Truth About Introverts – The Daily Positive.

Love and happy thoughts ๐Ÿ™‚

Rochelle xx