Your Love Is Like A Giant Pigeon

Your Love Is Like A Giant Pigeon

Whoop! It’s Friday in this cold part of South Africa and what better way to spend it than to write posts about absolutely anything because, yay! So today I thought I’d round up a few of my favourite Phoebe Buffay (I had to Google the spelling he-he) quotes and kinda just throw them out there.

So here goes, a few things I’ve learnt from Phoebe Buffay.

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Firstly, Phoebe has taught me that love isn’t always as peachy and candle lit themed as one is made to believe it is. More often than not, love is messy and it hurts and it gets thrown in your face. Sometimes it’s not reciprocated and that can break you, or you can have it strengthen you and make you more ready for the next time. Also, there is absolutely nothing wrong with writing music and your lyrics don’t rhyme… At all. That’s okay.

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Secondly, she taught me that It’s so easy to become comfortable with the way that you’re used to living your life and you get to a point where you’re too scared to venture beyond the fences you’ve built up around yourself. (Taking into consideration the fact that she lived out of a box for most of her childhood.) Not knowing that in so doing, all you’re accomplishing is limiting yourself to new relationships, new experiences and discovering new things about yourself that are actually quote delightful. So have that extra glass of wine if you so please, do it for the kids 😉

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We don’t always have to do the things that people want us to do, when we don’t want to do it. People are so used to doing what everyone else is doing, mostly due to #fomo and also, we just want to be a part of everything. You know, there might be a really cool photo opportunity to post onto Instagram. You never know! So it’s okay to say no once in a while, it’s okay to decline an invitation if you’d much rather cuddle up with your favourite book, or just to spend time with very awesome self.

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It’s okay to get shy and giggle about silly things once in a while. This is a bit of an every day occurrence for me, either way, it’s great! We can take things so seriously sometimes that we genuinely suck the fun out of what might actually be a really sweet moment. That guys you think is totes gorge smiled at you and said he likes your new lipstick? Blush and walk away all red and flustered and then tell your favorite girlfriend all all secretively! Why not? It’s cute! And before you know it you’ll have to be planning retirement plans and working out your next mortgage. So yay to cute giggles!

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Sometimes life kicks you in the lady bits. And sometimes you want to vent about said kicking. At this moment, it’s okay to lose your lady-like grandeur and drop an F-Bomb… or four 😀 It’s not the end of the world and I assure you, from the mouth of a near-angel, it really does make you feel a whole lot better. Sometimes we’re so frigid, and get to the point where you’re just like, okay, but why? The world is not going to change the direction of rotation, trust me.

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Lastly, and what a fitting ending ha-ha. It’s okay say goodbye to something that isn’t good for you. Whether it’s a pair of shoes that is just past it’s good days, a person who continuously hurts you, a friendship that you know is toxic, or the adorable shirt you loved to bits but won’t let go of because of all the memories attached (even though you haven’t worn it in the last two seasons). Take out the things that don’t need to be there and make space in your life for what is better and what will make you happier… probably.

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Boo! That’s not Phoebe giving you a fright. That’s her dancing! So, dance. Even though social convention dictates dancing involves your butt doing weird things and by those standards you can’t dance- just go ahead and freaking dance anyway. You’ll probably scare some people in the process, but it’s your life so go wild flower child!

Love and cute little midi rings,

Rochelle xx

I Do Believe We’re Only Passing Through

I Do Believe We’re Only Passing Through

I’m trying to change things up a bit, so instead of starting with something out of my book of Pop Culture lyrics, I’ve gone with something more chilled and well… awesome, so thank you Ben Howard 🙂

Anyway! It’s Sunday and I’m supposed to be studying, because that’s just where I am in my life at the moment. Then I had a thought and I figured I might as well share it with the world, because we all know that an awesome thought means absolutely nothing if it’s not been followed by some sort of social media upload. Hashtag amirite????!

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I feel like I’ve spent all this time searching for awesome GIF’s that I’ve lost my train of thought! Anyways. So upon having a long discussion about life as a single twenty something, obviously Tinder found it’s way in there somewhere. When you’re in a relationship, it’s very easy to judge the decisions of the singles in your life.. When you’re on the there side, however, things change and you’re forced to have an open mind about everything. Not thirty minutes after said discussion, I decided to create an account and see what happens. Please know that I’m not looking for a relationship, I’m not looking for a fling, I’m not looking for anything. I just wanted to see what it was like. I was on for a whole of five minutes and quickly felt very intimidated. Some of the guys are really handsome. But also, it made me look at my pictures and question what I should write at the ‘about me’ section, because I want to be appealing. I have to hide my lameness, I should be cool. So I went into a bit of a panic, are the sun glasses too much, my forehead is too big, oh dear, there’s a picture of Alex. Ahhhhh!

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Then I went off of it and took a step back. Why am I doing this? What do I wish to accomplish? I don’t want any of the things that the guys are putting out there (haha) so why would I torment myself, even though it was five minutes, I was already trying to mould myself into a perfect little image for someone else. This completely defeats the purpose of finding yourself and learning to discover what it is that makes you happy and that makes you tick. If I go my entire life changing for person x, who is Rochelle at the end of it all?

We’ve become people who have to be perfect at everything we do. We’re not allowed to make mistakes, because God forbid, it just reiterates how imperfectly human we are. I am not a perfect person. I love singing and I can’t sing to save a life (see what I did there 😉 ). I can’t dance, but I will dance my heart out whenever I get the chance. My jokes are awful, and people laugh at me laughing at my jokes, more than the joke itself. Does that stop me from singing, dancing and telling my awfully hilarious jokes? No! Because it makes me happy. And what am I doing if I’m not happy?

So when I swiped through the profiles of the mostly average guys and read one or two… Maybe three bios, I realised that in-app dating is not really that different to in-bar/coffee shop/restaurant dating. You’re still checking the person out, getting to know the person and then deciding where it will go from there. All of this just happens behind a phone screen. You’re just able to exit a lot easier if you see it’s not going anywhere, which is kinda convenient, I suppose.

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Still pretty daunting, right? So! As entertaining as it was, I don’t think I’ll be making it my main platform for well, meeting people. I’m awkward enough as it is, I think this will just make it so much more awkward. And for the record, I really enjoy being on my own. It’s something that I haven’t had the luxury of in so long and it’s so liberating. Do I get lonely, of course, do I miss being the apple of someone’s eye? Sure. But the time alone makes you very appreciative of the time you get to spend with people and it makes you treasure the people in your life so much more.

This time alone has made me realise how much I enjoy being by myself. Which is why I got all flustered about the Tinder thing. I think that for a while, I thought that because I am in no rush to get into a relationship, it made me weird or abnormal. But it doesn’t, the fact that I’m comfortable with my own company shows just how I don’t need someone. We will always want to be with someone, because two is always better than one. And there are times in one’s life that solitude and independence are what we need more. Maybe not forever, hopefully not forever, but it should be enjoyed.

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There’s a lot that you learn about yourself when you’re always by yourself. If I could, I’d take a trip into the wilderness, or the mountains and just soak it all in. Away from people and social media, I would take my books and my music, because hello… Books and music. Come on bro.

One of the most amazing things I’ve learnt recently is that when you fight for what you want, you don’t settle for second best. If someone doesn’t want to be in your life, you don’t force them to be. I’ve adopted this ‘eh’  attitude (actually, I’ve always had it, it’s just become more prominent) I love people, I love people a lot. But I don’t love a lot of people, so all the love that I have for the people in my life, it’s like, a lot. And when you know the love you have for people and it’s not appreciated, or it’s just swept to the side. Lady. Please. You become selfish with your time, your love, your affection. There is always someone who needs something more, so time wasted on someone who isn’t bothered, well bro, thank you and good bye.

People come into your life for a specific purpose, and when it’s good, you’re loved and cherished and when it’s not, you’re left stronger and wiser and so much more badass. You get to a point where you’re like, yeah well, I’m over it. It doesn’t matter what you say, or what you think, I’m still singing Taylor Swift with no regrets!

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Thank you Pam Beesly, for always showing me where my priorities lie 😀

Love, Vanilla Candles and Cold Toes,

Rochelle Joy xx

Because Sometimes We Just Need To Dance It Out

Because Sometimes We Just Need To Dance It Out

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Whoohoo! Thursday, my apparent favourite day of the week, except when you’re forced to leave gym early and then rush to catch a bus to work and end up sitting next to the noisiest group of people on the entire planet. Oh, and did I mention that I’ve become a bit dramatic over the last little while?

Figures. Quick recap, my previous place of employment was going through some troubles, so they ended up telling us all to find new jobs! What a blast. That was happening at the same point that I started my end of semester exams and to top it all off… A beloved friend died, without warning one Sunday morning. So yes. It’s been a crappy while. That was last year! This year, though I managed to take my first holiday in TWO YEARS, passed my learner’s test and started at a new job 🙂 I’ve made some (two actually) really good friends and so far, so good.

Today though, is a bit of a suck fest. It just didn’t start out well. And all I want to do it get onto a spinning bike and cycle until my heart rate monitor tells me I’m about to have a heart attack… Okay, maybe not really… But still. Anyway, it’s just one of those days 🙂 When you’re so busy and all the people in your life are busy as well, one tends to become lonely. Even though I’m surrounded by people all the time (which gets on my nerves almost 90% of the time, thanks to the introvert in me) it’s still very easy to kind of become lost in it all. I’ve become so used to listening to people and their things that it’s as if I’ve almost lost track of my own things.

This gets dangerous when you’re not getting the attention you need from the people you need the attention from. Oh, I’ve never looked into star signs and all that, but I’ve been told that I have the qualities of a Leo… Which I am, #obvs and with that comes the need/love for/of attention. Up until this point in my life I’ve never been able to relate to that… Until one of my two friends (at work haha) told me that the need for attention doesn’t always mean ‘all eyes on you in a large crowded room’ and that it could very easily mean the undivided attention from the person you’re talking to or a person whom you love. So. When this needed attention doesn’t come from the person you need it from… You start finding other people to give it to you. We’re selfish beings, and it’s so easy to slip into  bad habits and do things that will be regretted later.

Which is why I’ve decided that during this time of loneliness, I will focus on things other than myself (like writing a post about how I feel.. haha) and actually just getting shit done. It’s a lot easier said than done, because well… We want to feel that we matter… That if we’re absent from a place that our presence will be missed and that there is someone out there that is willing to sit and listen to us moan about shopping lists and assignments and stupid people in your space.

And then there are times when you can’t ignore things and you just blast your favourite song on your iPod and dance it the hell out. So what if you’re not as curvy as the girl Meghan Trainor is referring to, you love the song? You freaking enjoy singing about “All the right junk in all the right places”

Life is so freaking short, there is no reason we should live it sulking around about itsy bitsy crap that really won’t mean a thing in a few months. And when all else fails… Just do something that will make you smile and  inflate your heart, because at the end of that day, that’s what it comes down to. Life is filled with so much meh and bleh and we’ve become so used to it. Well. Bleh. Why not smile and run and jump and dance in the midst of all the bleh?!

Disclaimer: I am not running and jumping, although I am sitting at my desk listening to one of my favourite albums without my shoes, cos I’m cool like that 😉 xx

Smiles inside my heart,

Rochelle xx
Read more: Meghan Trainor – All About That Bass Lyrics | MetroLyrics

I love The Person I’ve Become

I love The Person I’ve Become

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Hello friends 🙂 It’s been far too long. Please mind the delay, I’ve entered my exam period (about 3 weeks ago) and I have my last exam in just under 2 weeks, so yay me!

When I saw this post on dateyourlove.net this morning, I thought it was absolutely beautiful. I don’t think I’m at the point int my life where I have everything together and I’m just in the prime of my life, but I do feel that I have it about as together as I could possibly have it at this point in time 🙂 (Such a long sentence jeez!)

What I will say is that at this point, is that I do love the person I’ve become. If you knew me prior to 2010, you’d know that the person I was then, is vastly different from the person writing this post now. I don’t think it was that much of a personality change, or rather, transformation as it was a style transformation. I believe that I was always wonderfully bubbly and creative, but it was hidden underneath layers made up of Superhero obsessions, over-sized clothing from the men’s section and skater shoes. It’s amazing what a boost of self confidence one gets from looking good. It’s always said that you have to feel good and it will show in your appearance and the way you conduct yourself and blah blah blah. But it was different for me. I never felt confident (still something I’m working on, daily), I felt OK with my appearance and never thought of myself as beautiful or anything close to the way I feel about myself now.

But we grow up. We learn that hiding our true potential from the world only holds us back from being the amazing people we are. It’s not easy, when you’re an introvert and you kinda want to keep people at a safe distance, it’s tricky to be well, amazing. But there comes a point where being shy isn’t as cute as we thought it was when we were in high school; when it’s the bold girl who get’s the position because she’s confident in who she is and won’t back away from a challenge. Seriously, the shy girl will not, I repeat, will not get the corner office. Nothing in life comes from shying away into corners and waiting for people to drag you out. You have to be courageous and go after what you want in life, there are no two ways about it.

I want to look back at this day and smile at how far I’ve come, the same way I look back at my former self. And with regard to the confidence, if there’s anything that Joyce Meyer has taught me (and she’s taught me plenty) it’s that you don’t have to FEEL confident to BE confident (or something like that). And it rings true almost every single day of my life 😀 I don’t see myself as the person I am, but the person I’m working toward being. I dress myself for the job that I want, not that job I have (Thank you Mr. Donaghy). It’s these little things that we do that add up in the end, and in the end, we’re the people we want to be 🙂

That was such a mouthful! I feel as if I’ve written enough to keep me going for the next little while 😉 kidding! Kidding!

Please remember, that all these things, they’re not easy. It’s not easy to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you’re beautiful and capable of great things; that you’re destined for so much more than you could imagine; that you were created to make a difference; that you were made to love yourself and love others. It sounds great in theory, but it’s a daily fight (psssht, more like a battle). I can assure you, it gets easier and easier and then you move onto something greater 🙂

The whole ‘fake it till you make it’ bit, haha it’s something I thought I’ll never have to do, but hey, it works. Before you know it. you’re genuinely being confident and walking around with the strut of a Victoria’s Secret model. If you’re not inclined to the whole strutting your stuff like a model vibe, then be who it is you want to be.

Be true to who you are 🙂

Many smiles,

Rochelle xx

 

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Ice-Cream is Awesome

Ice-Cream is Awesome

Ok! Enough soppy awkward disappointing endings! This is why we have ice-cream! I don’t know what I would do with my life if I didn’t have the sweet, sweet consolation when things don’t go according to plan (which is probably 76% of the time).

That and… The picture is pink. It’s pink, it’s ice-cream and it has words. Three of my favourite things in the whole world!

I’m a generally happy person, my second name is Joy. So, I guess that speaks for itself. I don’t like negative talk and I try to say as little negative things about any given situation. But when it comes to certain things (ie. accounting and the HIMYM series finale) it becaomnes a bit more tricky. Thank goodness sucky series finales don’t occur everyday and thank the good heavens I won’t have to do accounting for the rest of my life!

So! No more negative talk! HIMYM ended the way it did. Accounting sucks. At least I can work hard at dealing with accounting 😀 oh joy. Ok! Let’s move on to creamier pastures shall we 😉

(Insert awesome sign off/catch phrase here)

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Zedd – Clarity (Official Video) ft. Foxes – YouTube

So I have a younger sister, her name is Carrie-Ann. She hates it when people call her on her full name, so she kinda goes by ‘Carrie’ these days. Anyway, she’s incredibly cool and has impeccable taste in music. When I asked her for some advice on some music for my revamped gym playlist (which is extremely important to me) she suggested this song.

Boy, was she right. I love it. I love it and I just can’t get enough of it. It takes me to a place of pure bliss, a place where it’s just me and my heart rate monitor haha. Seriously, I got my heart rate up to 195 with this song (I even started running. Yes, it’s that good).

I haven’t had the chance to listen to the rest of what this talented artist has to offer, but I’m guessing it’s probably amazing!

Zedd – Clarity (Official Video) ft. Foxes – YouTube.

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3 Things Happy People NEVER Do – THE DAILY POSITIVE +

 

I’ve stumbled upon this brilliant man and his brilliant articles and the one posted today is something that we all should know about. I would like to think that I’m a happy person, but even I forget about these things, more often than not.

I love people, but I also love being alone, alone time is good, but too much time alone can cause one to start feeling isolated and detached from the people in your life who loves and cares about you. It’s so important to keep these things in mind when it seems as if though life is just being a total spaz. Usually, there are things that can be done to maybe not necessarily change the circumstance, but to at least change our outlook and reaction to the specific circumstance 🙂

Enjoy the article!

3 Things Happy People NEVER Do – THE DAILY POSITIVE +.