Wow Fireworks. I’ll Save These For Later

Wow Fireworks. I’ll Save These For Later

Hello! Okay, so today’s post is inspired by one of my ALL TIME FAVORITE (Christmas) MOVIES! I’ve always loved the movie Home Alone. The first two were brilliant, the second was… okay, but like, not anything to go to town about. The fourth was dog shit awful. I watched it more out of obligation to the series… Nothing more. It’s still by far the best movie of my childhood (alongside My Girl and Free Willy) it’s a bit creepy at points, but that’s okay. Show me a movie today that is so freakishly absurd and hilarious without being vile and completely inappropriate. I know that he’s all grown up and not as cute as he once was (I mean,  who really is, besides the most amazing Ryan Gosling #habbahabba)

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Where to begin. So in this new phase where I’m able do things and kind of, make up my own my mind and stuff. I’m realizing that it’s really good to do things on your own. There’s a feeling of freedom and independence that comes with doing things by yourself and being able to simply, well, be by yourself. It’s weird sometimes, when I’m home alone and the only time I end up talking to someone is when I voice note my sister haha. But even then it’s not that bad, because I’m able to enjoy my own company from time to time! It’s an important thing to realize, because we’re constantly surrounded by people and we’re often terrified of being by ourselves, lest we have to deal with all the deep and dark corners of our lives we’re more than comfortable to ignore when we’re around other people.

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Be generous. This movie, with it’s vast craziness taught me that it’s good to be nice to people! Even if you don’t want to! The world needs more altruism and it starts with you and I darling. And, you don’t have to go full force and be mother Mary all in one go. Ease yourself into it, if you’re like me, you’ll add a little sass to your generosity; which I now realize is something I might have learnt from this movie in the first place! Thanks Kev 😉

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Heart break sucks. It sucks more than anything sucky I’ve experienced, so yes. Once you’ve been hurt it takes a toll on your heart and it becomes a bit hard after a while. You’ll start to question life and why you even try to love people when you just get hurt all the time. Your heart breaks all over again when you think that you’ve finally healed and that hurts like a bitch. But it’s important to know that you will heal completely and that you will be whole again, maybe not now, or tomorrow, or even next year, but you will be able to smile without the sadness looming behind your eyes. There is niceness left in you, it may be somewhere way, way deep down, but t’s there.

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Geesh! That went deep quickly! Onto my next point. It’s okay to go absolutely bat-shit crazy. Let your Freak Flag Fly! Do what you need to do to stay true to who you are 🙂 I feel that sometimes we’re so used to norms and culture and adhering to social convention that we kind of becoming a non-unique species and complete creatures of habit. If you want to wear a floral and polka dot outfit combination, you do it. Absolutely love the crop top and skater skirt trend? Then do it unashamedly! Don’t feel like a freak for loving all things hip and mainstream, flip, just do it. If you want to talk in New Girl references for an entire afternoon, then why the hell not. You’re only young once, and you’ll only have this much energy at one point in your life, so make the most of it. Don’t undersell yourself for the sake of someone else. you’re doing yourself a huge injustice. And you will never understand the understated joy of being happy with just being weird haha.

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With that said, don’t take shit from anyone. People are going to hurt you and walk over you and then push you down and walk over you again. People suck actually, but anyway. So! To deal with the sucky people, you’re going to have to stand up for yourself and put your foot down. Don’t allow people to let their negativity dampen your bright smile and don’t allow people to make you feel weak to compensate for their own weaknesses. Stand up for yourself, be brave about your opinions and don’t settle! Baby Llama don’t need no drama!

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While we’re on the topic of people and their drama, hold on to the people that make you smile. There will always be the people in your life that you need to hold at arm’s length. There will be the people who screw you over, who break your heart, who make you want to give up your will to live. And then you’ll have those with whom you can’t seem to live without. The ones who you love endlessly, whose mere existence make you glad to be alive. Those who fill your heart with so much love that you can’t help but pass it onto others. Those are the one you need to hold on to.

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That’s all from me for now 🙂  Life is scary and people suck, but if Kevin Mc Callister could make it on his own while his family left the country without him, I’m pretty sure you can make it through today 😉

Love and learning to smile again,

Rochelle Joy xx

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Best Friendship Song Ever By Bruno Mars – YouTube

So a dear friend of mine (Thank you Lotie), whom I haven’t seen in nearly 4 years posted this video onto my Facebook wall, about 3 or so days ago. I hadn’t had the chance to listen to it and anyway, I did tonight.

It’s so precious. I’m not the biggest Bruno Mars fan, I’m not even the second biggest Bruno Mars fan. I’ll sing along to his tunes and tap my foot to the rhythm of his music, still, I wouldn’t call myself a fan. But. This song. Is the sweetest song I’ve listened to in a very, very long time. It might just be because the music video is so darn cute, (I love darn cute music videos) either way, it’s the cutest thing you’ll see today. And if I’m wrong and you do in fact see something cuter today, PLEASE send it to me so that I can share in your cuteness!

For now, enjoy the cutest thing you’ll see in the next few minutes. I can assure you, your heart will melt and you will want to cry 🙂

Best Friendship Song Ever By Bruno Mars – YouTube.

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I’ll Hold Your Hand

I'll Hold Your Hand

-No, I didn’t post this picture purely based on the cuteness of the kitten (truth be told, I’m more of a dog person).

I’ve just realized that often times life doesn’t go your way, and the best thing to remember in those moments… which happen to occur more often than not; there is always, and I mean always someone there for you 🙂

We have people in our lives who love us, who care about our well-being, who will drop their plans and come to our aide when the need arises. Remember this. Remember that you have people in your life who will miss you if you'[re not around. People who hold you close and who cherish you 🙂

People who are waiting for the opportunity to hold your hand 🙂

Letting People In

Letting People In

b3861afd7c249110c41ee6d2dea59e25-This is something that I struggle with, almost all of the time. I’m not entirely sure, but I have a constant fear of people leaving me. Strangely enough, I can only recall one specific time that a dear friend of mine left. It was in primary school, grade 5 to be exact. She wasn’t particularly special or anything… Anyway. So yes, this irrational fear has me closing up whenever people try to get too close to me.

I literally have a handful, may two handfuls of close friends and even they were hard to let in. It took months of trying and more months of forcing myself to open up and to let them into my world. It’s funny, because I don’t go “Oooh, you seem nice! Be my friend!” It takes lots of coffee dates and literally just slowly opening myself up. Like a flower, opening up toward the warmth of the sun and closing up again when that heat diminishes. I think we all have a slight fear that the person might not like what they see when the flower is totally exposed, when that flower is vulnerable, susceptible to to violation.  So, instead of opening up and enjoying the warm embrace and caress of the sun, it just stays closed up and alone, not being able to enjoy any of it.

The thing is, is that I would be perfectly happy on my own. I am not a personal people’s person. I love people, but I don’t enjoy people in my space. I think, were there to be a Zombie Apocalypse and by some divine intervention I survived, I would be fine on my own. But that’s not cool, it’s not healthy, it’s not good for one’s well-being (This being apart from the fact that there are brain eating half-dead people out to get me) haha. The thing is, is that we need people in our lives. We need to know that there are people who care about us, people who love us, people who want to know our opinion on whether or not to purchase the dress that might actually be a top. It’s not only for their benefit, but it benefits us to know that someone will notice if we were the first to die in the previously mentioned Zombie Apocalypse.

We need to have people in our lives, we need to let people in. We won’t survive on our own. Yes, people disappoint us, they let you down, they break your heart. It sucks, it makes you question yourself and your strength and your ability to handle yourself. You will feel rejected my those you love at some or other point, but that doesn’t last. The people in your life who really love you, the real friends, they come back. They redeem themselves, not because you’ve compelled them to, but because they’ve realized your worth and that they wouldn’t want to lose you.

It’s funny, only once you’ve grown up do you begin to see what real love is and what it means to be a true friend. The other funny thing is, is that you don’t get to this place without a few stumbles along the way. As Lily Aldren once said “You need to break a few eggs to make a good pancake” this couldn’t be any closer to the truth.