Thirty Minus Five Years Old

Thirty Minus Five Years Old

Whoohoo! Birthdays are the very best aren’t they? Well, they are, when you’re four years old, and you have a party the next day with all the cool kids you’ve invited and you know there’ll be cake and presents and party packs! Oh how fun birthdays were when we were younger.

Birthday Tangled

Well, those were simpler times. Now though, we have expectations and often times those expectations are not met. Also, now the thought of growing a year older isn’t as appealing as it was when we were younger. Because now, with age comes a whole lot of extra things that we don’t really want, but they’ll come anyway because well, they’re just like that.

So this year, I’m turning twenty five, whoop! And I’m not that petrified. Yes, I can no longer sing ‘I don’t know about you, but I’m turning twenty two’ and quite frankly, I couldn’t sing that song for the past two years, so I think I’ll manage haha. Because as wonderful as it was to have birthday parties at four years old, and even at twenty two, it’s so much better, in a whole new, exhilaratingly terrifying way when you get older.

Birthday Party

There’s something exciting about figuring out your life in your twenties, learning how to budget properly, saving religiously every month and making the tough choice between that adorable polka dot skirt, a Ken Follet book you haven’t read (I can’t believe there are so many) and then well, having food for the rest of the month. And let’s not even mention the love life situation. But with the stress of everyday life, comes a freedom that you smily do not have at four years old. You decide what it is you’re going to do about the condition of your life. After all, it’s just circumstantial, right? Most of the time, you think about your life and go hey, I’m here, this sucks, let’s order some cocktails shall we?!

Birthday Dean

Because at the end of the day, we will look back to these days and count them as the ‘simpler times’ and I don’t want to look back in regret and think that I should’ve enjoyed it more. I don’t want to think that I’ve wasted my twenties being a stick in the mud and not actually playing in the mud. I feel like I say this often, but it’s so important to enjoy where we are at the point we’re at in our lives. Yes, things could be better, but they could also be a hell of a lot worse. So even though I’m not over the moon excited for my birthday tomorrow, it is a big day (yay quarter century!) and I will sum up the courage to be excited about it.

Birthday Lily

We’re so used to having everything together, and when they’re not held together, we start to panic. But this is what life does though, the minute you think you’ve got it figured out, it comes and pulls the rug out from beneath your feet. And when you’re lying there, with your head on the ground and a pain in your butt , take a moment to appreciate what you have in your life. The people who stand beside you and support you and the fact that you’re better off than 70% of the world, is a pretty good thing to be thankful for 🙂

So yay to unconventional birthdays!

Love and The Anticipation of Calorie Free Birthday Cake,

Rochelle xx

AFDA Experimental Festival: Review

AFDA Experimental Festival: Review

I’ve been roped in to handle some of the Media Marketing at my place of employment and because this is my blog and I can post about all sorts of cool things, I thought I might as well share my experience here too 🙂


My first experience at the AFDA festival was entertaining to say the least. It was held at the AFDA Cape Town campus in Observatory and the venue could not have been more perfect. The students put their best feet forward and there were a few performances that blew my brain balls!

I attended the screenings on Saturday, the second day of the festival and as soon as I got there I could feel the excitement that had been growing after weeks of hard work and sleepless nights. There was pumping music with trendy little dance floor, good food, Oreo cupcakes and even a fresh produce juicer stand (because you know, go organic or go home).

A few of the students had booths set up, depicting the main features of each project. Many booths had something you could take away with you, most notably: What if They Were Wrong, had a container filled with Chomp chocolates and Fizzers, Voiceless had a chocolate fountain in which you could dip marshmallows, pieces of pineapple and Wilson Blocks (the toffee of our childhood) and Beef had a huge chalk board wall aptly titled ‘What’s Your Beef’, on which you were able to write things that rubbed you the wrong way. Among many were phrases like ‘load shedding, hipsters, schedules, mean people and People who ruin Game of Thrones.’ These were so much fun, because they made you expectant for the actual film, which I think was the point.

Oh My Gosh

Out of all the screenings, I would have to say that my favourite, based on aesthetics, storyline and style were Voiceless (AFDA CPT), What if They Were Wrong (AFDA CPT) and How to Kill a Girl Named Amanda (AFDA JHB)

With it being an Experimental Festival, many of the films left you laughing hysterically at the hilarity of the writing. Many opened your eyes to the injustice in the word and made you marvel at the wisdom of these young minds. Some even left you with a longing for the film to continue. I was highly impressed with the superb quality of the films, when many of them had very little to work with.

After seeing the amount of talent in these films, I’m excited for what our budding film industry has in its wake.


Love and a kiddies popcorn,

Rochelle Joy xx

Bold is the New Black

Bold is the New Black

Be Brave

It’s Thursday! One of my all time favourite days in the week because it’s one day closer to the next day which brings us all one day closer to Christmas 🙂 Seriously, I’m not one to live for the weekend, but I do love me a good ol’ Thursday.

Anyway. Update on life and such,  I’ve been promoted! Yay! After my three month probation period I have been moved from reception to rentals (just one bar below management, which is part of the long term plan). So although it’s a lot more stress and longer hours, it is a lot more rewarding. It’s funny, because I was pretty bummed about being a receptionist… I was so bored and felt so under-valued. Before I knew it, I was moved to the rentals office to help out with the workload and then, bam! In the rentals office permanently! So yay. This is really great. Who knows, I might even be moving into my own place by sometime in next year 😉

Anyway, life is good at the moment and I want to make a note thereof. I also want to note the fact that life isn’t always a suck-fest. And yes, it is a suck-fest  a lot of the time, but there are moments which make the rest of it all come together 🙂 Haha, this is sounding like a lame tribute to ‘sticking out the hard times’ but it’s not!

I had a moment on the way home yesterday, when I thought briefly, about my childhood. It had it’s tough, wearing flip-flops in winter moments… and moments where I would wear hand me downs and try to wear it confidently, like someone stylish. I thought about the fact that if 10 year old me saw 24 year old me, 10 year old me would say ‘I want to be like that one day’. And that thought makes me smile. It makes me smile that I’m doing something with my life. It makes me smile that regardless of all that life has thrown in my face, I can walk about with my head high and be confident about where I am now.

I still have a long way to go, i.e. owning my own vehicle and living in my own apartment (which is soon on it’s way mind you) and then, of course we have the wanderlust I have boiling inside my bones every single day. So although I have a lot more I want to accomplish in my life, I’m well on my way to get there 🙂

It’s taken me a while to realize that it’s not the things you have in your life that matter in order to make you happy though. If you are driving the fastest car, or you have the most elaborate wardrobe, or even if you’ve traveled t o every continent. If you’re not happy despite all those things, neither of it actually matters. Yes, you can talk up a storm at a dinner party and your contribution to the ‘meeting the relatives of your other half’ will be a lot more interesting, but who are you underneath all those things? If you’re relying on those things to make up for a shitty personality then… Shame. And if you’ve accomplished all those things and have a stellar personality, then high fives all round to you friend!

It’s great to have a list of things being ticked off your list, but it matters nothing if those are the things you are counting on to fulfill you as a person. It sounds silly, but it happens. *Extreme vulnerability ahead* I often find myself feeling less worthy of someone’s attention or time when I think about the things I haven’t yet done in my life, like my lack of travels or my lack of a driver’s license. So I often measure myself to those things. Which, if you think about it logically, is rather stupid. I remember as a child, when I got my first cellphone, thinking that when I have one with games, I will be so much cooler… Then, when I had one with a colour screen… Then, when I had a flip phone… Then… then… then… Now, years later, I’m still doing that. I’m still waiting for my next  ‘when I have, I will be’. The truth is that I need to be first. I need to be confident where I am, with what I have before the rest of it all comes along.

It sucks the joy out f where you are currently if you’re constantly looking down on yourself and waiting for the next phase. Instead, enjoy the phase of your life that you’re in currently. It will make that phase flow a whole lot smoother 🙂

I think that’s all from me for now. Until next month! Haha

Love and jelly sprinkles,

Rochelle xx

Cute Little Girl and a Post About Wearing Less Make Up

Cute Little Girl and a Post About Wearing Less Make Up

Ok, so it would be a complete and utter lie if I told you that I posted this because of anything other than the little girl and the dog. It’s the best post ever! It’s so funny! And the only reason I’m re-posting is because of the cute little GIF at the end. Seriously, look at that little girl! Isn’t she the cutest little creature in the whole entire world?

As funny and over dramatic as the post may be, it’s definitely something I’ve been giving some thought to lately. I’ve been trying my best not to indulge in too much make up every day. For the past few weeks I’ve only applied BB Cream, Navy Blue Eyeliner (not on the waterline, only on the top lid) and mascara. To be honest, it’s not really all that bad. The only reason I do it is so that I don’t look like a complete zombie when I leave in the morning.

That’s the point of make-up though, it’s to accentuate what you already have. It’s there for you to highlight what makes you gorgeous, it’s intent is not to make you look like someone you’re not. If your ‘off to bed face’ is vastly different from your ‘leaving out the door’ face, then well, sweetie, there’s something off over there. I have many (please understand, that by ‘many’ I actually mean 6) girlfriends and at least half of them (that’s about, 3 haha) wear make up, as in, the Full Monty on a daily basis. They’re all beautiful (they’re my friends, duh) so they really don’t have to. I don’t just say this because they’re my friends, but because it’s the honest truth. I’ve seen them all without any make-up and yes, although they look a tad bit sleepy (seriously though, who doesn’t?) they look just fine!

Just two days ago, I had the privilege of watching one of, said friends apply her make up. It was an incredible experience. The transformation was so subtle and yet so astounding. With every step she took, I told her she could stop right there, that was enough. Obviously, she didn’t listen 😀 and when she was done, she looked like she was ready to do a half page spread for Garnier. It was so minimalistic and beautiful. I felt like someone watching their big sister apply make up for the first time.

I’m not sure how I got to that point. But yes. Make up is great, in moderation 🙂 And seriously, look at that cute face!

Hugs and joy all around,

Rochelle 🙂 xx


20 Things That Happen When You Wear Less Makeup


I love The Person I’ve Become

I love The Person I’ve Become



Hello friends 🙂 It’s been far too long. Please mind the delay, I’ve entered my exam period (about 3 weeks ago) and I have my last exam in just under 2 weeks, so yay me!

When I saw this post on this morning, I thought it was absolutely beautiful. I don’t think I’m at the point int my life where I have everything together and I’m just in the prime of my life, but I do feel that I have it about as together as I could possibly have it at this point in time 🙂 (Such a long sentence jeez!)

What I will say is that at this point, is that I do love the person I’ve become. If you knew me prior to 2010, you’d know that the person I was then, is vastly different from the person writing this post now. I don’t think it was that much of a personality change, or rather, transformation as it was a style transformation. I believe that I was always wonderfully bubbly and creative, but it was hidden underneath layers made up of Superhero obsessions, over-sized clothing from the men’s section and skater shoes. It’s amazing what a boost of self confidence one gets from looking good. It’s always said that you have to feel good and it will show in your appearance and the way you conduct yourself and blah blah blah. But it was different for me. I never felt confident (still something I’m working on, daily), I felt OK with my appearance and never thought of myself as beautiful or anything close to the way I feel about myself now.

But we grow up. We learn that hiding our true potential from the world only holds us back from being the amazing people we are. It’s not easy, when you’re an introvert and you kinda want to keep people at a safe distance, it’s tricky to be well, amazing. But there comes a point where being shy isn’t as cute as we thought it was when we were in high school; when it’s the bold girl who get’s the position because she’s confident in who she is and won’t back away from a challenge. Seriously, the shy girl will not, I repeat, will not get the corner office. Nothing in life comes from shying away into corners and waiting for people to drag you out. You have to be courageous and go after what you want in life, there are no two ways about it.

I want to look back at this day and smile at how far I’ve come, the same way I look back at my former self. And with regard to the confidence, if there’s anything that Joyce Meyer has taught me (and she’s taught me plenty) it’s that you don’t have to FEEL confident to BE confident (or something like that). And it rings true almost every single day of my life 😀 I don’t see myself as the person I am, but the person I’m working toward being. I dress myself for the job that I want, not that job I have (Thank you Mr. Donaghy). It’s these little things that we do that add up in the end, and in the end, we’re the people we want to be 🙂

That was such a mouthful! I feel as if I’ve written enough to keep me going for the next little while 😉 kidding! Kidding!

Please remember, that all these things, they’re not easy. It’s not easy to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you’re beautiful and capable of great things; that you’re destined for so much more than you could imagine; that you were created to make a difference; that you were made to love yourself and love others. It sounds great in theory, but it’s a daily fight (psssht, more like a battle). I can assure you, it gets easier and easier and then you move onto something greater 🙂

The whole ‘fake it till you make it’ bit, haha it’s something I thought I’ll never have to do, but hey, it works. Before you know it. you’re genuinely being confident and walking around with the strut of a Victoria’s Secret model. If you’re not inclined to the whole strutting your stuff like a model vibe, then be who it is you want to be.

Be true to who you are 🙂

Many smiles,

Rochelle xx